Have you noticed that it is hip in our time for the female to express herself without recourse to the interest of the male?
You just can’t speak your views about the female’s expressions in our time ; especially if you are a male without risking being mocked as anti- feminine.
The male cannot give his honest impression about the female anymore; it is either you like it or shut up.
So they have a right to wear fake nails; fake hairs, fake eye lashes and anything. They have a right to seek an addition to any part of their body. They could seek an enlargement of their boobs or backs. It is her body. She has a right to free body expression.
She has a right not to prepare her own hand meal for you because she also brings to the upkeep of the home. She has the right to prior notice if you want to have your conjugal right respected.
The irony of this situation is that , whilst the female self expression is increasing by day, the male free expression is almost unacceptable in our world today.
In our world today, it is as if there is an unwritten code that men no longer have a right to free expression. And even if one would want to exercise it, the male must measure his free expression against a feminine right.
Everything a male wants to do, he must measure its effects on the interest of the woman.
The other day, I was shocked to see before my own eyes the male emaciated self in our modern world at a work place discussion between workmates.
It was on the subject of polygamy and whether the practice was religiously sinful or not. For me, it wasn’t the matter of whether it was sinful or not that intrigued me about the discussion on that day. It was about the zest at which the males in this debate spoke against the practice of polygamy making the subject of their fellow male’s decision for a second wife as almost a sacrilege thing.
I was extremely amazed at the males in this debate. I thought that it was one thing for a male not to think of having a second wife based on his own personal circumstances and philosophy; and it was another thing for a male to be a crusader against polygamy. The later of the situation as it occurred that day didn’t sit right for me. I thought there was something wrong somewhere with the males as gathered there.
But on the second thought, I was sorry for the male- gathering in this debate. I thought the platform of the debate didn’t give a fair chance to the males to make their own honest submission on this matter. The debate platform was largely numbered with a feminine presence.
This is a world where people could send information to places with the touch of a button. How could any man openly claim before a feminine hostile jury that he doesn’t see anything wrong with polygamy as an institution? By the time the man gets to the house , his wife would have begun pulling some strings that would squeeze life out of him. This is the wife you partly married. She provided almost half of what made the marriage rites possible. And since you got married ,she provided as equal or even more of what is needed to get your so- called home running. How dare you stand in public talking about a man’s right to have a second wife!
I realized that the male as gathered in this debate knew the consequences of any male ego pronouncements they would make on this matter.
The men after all had their brain intact; in spite of the fact that they might have lost what makes them men.
At this point , I am reminded of a scene in Shakespeare’s play Othello. In one scene, a very mischievous character advised another character to go as he said ‘ put money in thy purse’. Iago, the mischievous character asked Roderigo, a love sick character to go and put a lot of money in his purse in preparation for a journey to woo the woman who Roderigo wanted badly.
You see, in this world, one could feign strong dislike for anything. You could say you don’t like ‘frog meat’ . But if you happen to have a lot of money in your purse, you might decide to pay anything to taste frog meat in a fanciful Asian restaurant.
I hope that all the male- gathering who spoke vehemently against polygamy in public were true by their sentiment showed that day.
Somehow, I doubt that they were honest with the positions they took on this matter that day.
I just want to challenge them that they should try and ‘ put money in their pockets. The Akans would say ‘ krom ye de ‘ . To wit ‘ the town is sweet’. You never know. ‘ Put money in thy purse’.