Although it is the responsibility of the wife to keep the home: (Cooking, and put the house in order), however, it is required of a responsible and Loving husband to augment the duties of the wife by assisting her in the discharge of her matrimonial roles in the home. One of the venomous factors escalating the rate of divorce in the so called “modern marriages” is the sharing of roles in the home. It is beautiful to see a husband taken up certain household duties to support the wife in maintaining the home, nonetheless such augmenting roles of men are not binding on the husband but they do it out of respect and love for their wife. It is also the outright responsibility of the husband to take up the financial obligations of the family (bills, Food, shelter, clothing and all such necessities). However, the wife can also augment the husband to undertake such responsibility but it is not binding on the wife.
Inarguably, everything is wrong with a wife who can not cook for the home, and tidy up the home so it is wrong for the husband to fold his hands and not work with his hand to provide for the family.
I am of a candid view that until we continue to mimic the positives of the marriage pattern of our fathers, we will continue to experience the large scale divorce in marriages albeit the so called “modernity” and the precious premarital counselling.
I Love how Jesus Christ answered the Pharisees who ask him of whether or not a man can divorce his wife; He answered by saying “in the beginning it was not so”. God never endorsed divorce. God, since Adam made the man to be the head of the family and must there be accorded outmost respect from the wife and children even as he also shows uncommon love for the wife and support her to be the best she could.
Without equivocation, in the wisdom of God, He created women to be ambidextrous in nature; meaning God has given women unique abilities to perform more than one task at a time: something men struggles to do. That is why a woman can simultaneously be Cooking, talking on phone and nurse a baby and still does it with accuracy. Therefore any woman who insist on role sharing in the home only do so to undermine their proclivity to be multi task as given to her by God in His infinite wisdom.
Although I am an ardent feminist, who continually propagate gender equality and any form of discrimination against women at all levels of the social ladder; nonetheless I strongly oppose role sharing and any form of competition among the husband and wife in the home.
The bible in 1 Peter 3:5-7 clearly illustrate the beauty of marriage. Hence, even as wives need to be loved and cared for as Queens by their husbands, it is incumbent on wives to submit to their husbands in utmost humility and respect. What every wife expect from the husband ab initio is Love and Care, and by making her to feel she is the most precious ornament at all times. Husbands’ top most desire of their wives is Respect at all times. A wife will never get the required love and care she deserves from the husband if he do not feel respected.
Therefore, Wives respect your husbands; Husbands love and care for your wives as queens to promote the sanctity and beauty of marriages (Ephesians 5:22-25). I Love marriage because it was foreordained by the Almighty God.
Let us respect the Union.
Stay blessed.
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