I dedicate this article to my girlfriend whom I call “Diamond X.”
The title of this interesting article might sound quite obscure to you, because even relationship counsellors do not make such comparative analysis. Well, my meditation today drew my attention to this revealing issue through my inner promptings. I also think it is high time relationship was perceived from a motivational perspective. Many lovers are probably bored with the romantic rules and regulations in relationship. In fact, they ought to understand this uniquely profound approach to relationship which emanates from motivational philosophy. Yes, the hard realities of relationship should be expounded in a non-romantic but rather a motivational tone. Therefore, brace yourself up for an unconventionally lucid exposition of relationship matters.
Let me now reiterate that, “If a relationship is treated like the pursuit of dreams, it will hardly fail.” For me, a motivationally inclined individual, I actually regard my relationship like the pursuit of my dreams. I even wittingly remarked that, “I’m a Christian, but I want to be a polygamist. Oh yes, I’m already married to my dreams – that’s my first wife. And I also plan on getting married to my girlfriend – she’ll be my second wife.” In essence I believe that I have a love affair with my dreams while I also have a love affair with my girlfriend. So the way I pursue my dreams differs not from the way I live my relationship life. I want the end result of the pursuit of my dreams to be all about success, and I also want the end result of my relationship to be all about success. That is why my mindset and attitudes are virtually the same in both situations.
For instance, I sacrificed my university education to pursue my writing dreams full-time, because I want to be unusually successful in life. Very recently, I cancelled a few appointments I had on UCC campus and abruptly returned home in order to spend time with my babe as she desperately wanted. I made that seemingly weird sacrifice in my relationship since I always do same in the pursuit of my dreams. Look, if our relationship eventually becomes a failure, then I am not to blame for that outcome. You know why? I treat our relationship like the pursuit of my dreams, and I am striving to make it a huge success just as I am striving to make the pursuit of my dreams a huge success. My stubbornness could infuriate her to quit our relationship, but I would not be the cause – she rather would – because she did not apply perseverance in our relationship, which is a great factor in the accomplishment of one’s dreams.
Moreover, there are a variety of reasons why relationships fail, yet the ultimate reason why relationships fail is because they are not treated like the pursuit of dreams. Frankly speaking, no incredibly determined person will want to fail in the pursuit of his or her dreams. Then how can this person’s relationship fail if he or she treats it like the pursuit of his or her dreams? If you will not give up on your dreams because other people usually disagree with you, then why will you quit your relationship because your partner usually disagrees with you? If you will not give up on your dreams because you sometimes commit blunders, then why will you quit your relationship because your partner sometimes commits blunders? If you will not give up on your dreams because you are broke, then why will you quit your relationship because your partner is broke? The analogy is actually endless!
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